The curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I change.”
— Carl Rogers

This is the main work of therapy: full acceptance of ourselves, just as we are, to facilitate healing and growth. Easier said than done! But gradually, as we build a relationship with someone who welcomes us without conditions, or sits with us in our relationships without assigning blame, acceptance can become possible. With acceptance comes the ability to change. It’s a subtle and profound process that unfolds in this context of a therapeutic relationship.



Research shows that the most important aspect of therapy is what the client brings to it in the form of resources and motivation for change. The second most important element is the therapeutic relationship itself. We are relational beings. We all experience pain at times, but we do not have to face it alone.

I believe that we all possess the resources and potential for healing and growth. Therapy involves creating conditions that allow that potential to emerge. Those conditions include developing a genuine and accepting relationship in which it is safe to explore your experience.


Pursuing therapy is an important decision, involving a significant investment of time, money, and energy. Selecting a therapist is a critical step in the process. I encourage you to look through the information on this website. If you think I might be a good fit for your needs, please first contact me by email or phone at (253) 227-2120. I offer an initial, risk-free, 60-minute appointment to further explore if my approach is what you are seeking.